My baby died. It is politely referred to as a loss.
You lose a wedding band in the ocean, but it is somewhere on the ocean floor. Unknown to you, but it is somewhere.
My daughter is not lost.
I didn't misplace her.
I can't retrace my steps in the mall to find her mesmerized by a pink, frilly dress.
She wasn't kidnapped. Her photo is not on a milk carton. There will be no Amber alert.
She was kidnapped by the grim reaper.
She is not lost. She is gone.
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She Almost Made It/ SerenityJoy by Leung Ya Chun (AKS) is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-Noncommercial-No Derivative Works 3.0 United States License.
Serenity Joy almost made it into this world alive, but almost doesn't count. Her little sister did make it.
When we choose not to focus on what is missing from our lives but are grateful for the abundance that's present -- love, health, family, friends, work, the joys of nature and personal pursuits that bring us pleasure -- the wasteland of illusion falls away and we experience Heaven on earth.
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6 comments:
I feel this way, too. I hate the words they use to replace dead because they are just wrong.
Everytime I hear lost now, I think of the Robi.nWillia.ms episode of Law & Order I talked about on my blog a while back... To which he responds:
They are not LOST, they were TAKEN from me!
The silly different ways to soften the blow of "he died" don't bother me that much. Except, I HATE when I say: I lost the baby. I have done this now twice in a fit of need to hurry up and answer this person before I lose my cool.
I didn't lose the baby, that implies other things. He died, I gave birth to him. The opposite order of things.
xo
Every time someone says loss - I think: I loose my car keys, I loose my way, I loose my swipe card for work, can't find my ipod right now, but I assure you, I would not lose my son. Drives me a bit batty.
((hugs))
I am glad you quit your crazy job. All the best for whatever you will try!!
Thinking of you.
*hugs*
it's not like you forgot her at a supermarket or something
Good point, Ya Chun.
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